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The L Word
How often do you say it?
“Love is an absolute, but like other absolutes it loses its absolute meaning as soon as it is spoken. Love is all-embracing, but as soon as it is named, it is limited.” — I Ching (Sam Reifler translation)
Have you ever known someone who is in a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend or spouse and whenever they talk to each other on the phone they always end their call by saying, Love you? What’s with that? Are they afraid the other person is going to forget? Are they afraid that if they don’t say that every single time they speak on the phone that the relationship will start to fall apart? Is it a way to maintain a tethered connection when the two are not in the same room? Do they say it simply out of habit?
Saying, ‘I love you,’ to someone can never, ever be as powerful as actually loving them. When you unconditionally love someone there is no need for verbalization because it can be felt with every fiber of that someone’s being. Do we repeatedly say it because we are afraid the other person can’t feel our love? Or because we are afraid our love for them is not unconditional enough for it to be felt by them? Is there an undertone of insecurity in our words?
We live in our minds but true unconditional love is not an intellectual thing. It is a feeling-tone vibratory resonance. Love is a feeling — as…
