Spirituality

Prostitution and Divorce

And the difference between exchange and unconditional giving

White Feather
3 min readJan 31, 2021

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In the old Lakota society only the woman in a marriage had the power of divorce. And all she had to do to divorce her husband was to kick him out of her teepee. All teepees and communal property were owned by the women. Men only owned their horses and weapons. Everything else belonged to the women. And only the woman could grant a divorce. Men had no say in the matter — although if the man wanted a divorce bad enough he could engage in behavior that helped convince the woman to divorce him.

Real marriage or divorce happens only within one’s heart. It only involves ONE person.

There is a little prostitution involved in practically every relationship. Prostitution is merely a means of exchange and we all are involved in exchanges that have subtle hints of prostitution at certain levels. With unconditional love there is no exchange. Exchange is always conditional!

Prostitution is when we exchange our sacredness for power (money). Most all of us do that on a daily… nay, hourly rate. So when we talk about prostitution we are really talking about the degree of prostitution that is acceptable. While we prostitute ourselves constantly in little subtle ways, we cross the line of acceptable prostitution when we exchange sex and money. There is a great hypocrisy involved in condemning prostitution on one side of the line and not on the other. It is all the same thing. It is an energy exchange.

With unconditional love there is no exchange!

The holy bonds of matrimony are a condition! Divorce is a condition. When you unconditionally love someone, none of that other stuff matters one iota. If you unconditionally love someone then chances are that you are not married to that someone because then your love would not be unconditional anymore. That is how unconditional, unconditional can be.

With unconditional love there is no exchange!

There is no giving and taking, there is merely a ONE-directional flow of energy. Ninety-nine percent of the sex humans engage in is an exchange! One percent of the sex (actually, less)…

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